I have been contemplating the nature of success lately. How we define it, what it means to us and why it is so important to us and our businesses. I think the measure of success we use on ourselves is a little wonky and needs a little adjustment.
When I was in school for massage therapy, I was a single mom and needed to have a job paying more than the serving job I had at the time. I was only 3 months into school and I talked my way into a massage job at a chiropractor's office. I mean, I gave it a hell of a song and dance and I knew nothing. I looked at that as a success. Not the massage, getting the job.
But, I knew the only way to be successful ($$$) was to have a stable of clients. THAT was success. I thought that would come fast as I was some kind of massage prodigy. It took 5 years. Sadly, I never really looked at it as a success, I was too busy working my ass off and bitching about it taking so long. I had no joy and I didn’t really believe I was as good as I thought I was.
15 years later, I was able to truly see that I was good at what I did. In fact, I actually had a gift in my modality. A wonderful realization at the end of my career. And so, I didn’t see the success in it until I was retiring out of necessity for my physical health. I didn’t have an opportunity to experience what it really felt like during that moment itself.
I feel like I can trace each career development over the course of my life in the same way. The restaurant management, the chiro office management, the arena merchandise manager, etc. Everything I did, I realized too late I was not just competent but actually good at what I did. And not just good, but successful. Everywhere I worked, I left them in a better spot then when I arrived.
And the reason why I continued to look at myself in a dim light of success?
That little voice in my head telling me that I was doing it wrong. That I needed to hustle my ass because it wasn’t right. I had a measuring stick that was so skewed there was never going to be a moment where I saw myself as successful based on that damn stick.
Thankfully, through a lot of hard work, really amazing support and more wake up calls than I care to share, I learned to quiet that voice. I have stopped measuring success in a traditional way. I prefer to look at everything in my life as a milestone. A moment in time of an achievement never before accomplished. Of course, I have goals and dreams and I do strive for them. I keep sight of the things I am working on, in the moment, that are meaningful to me now.
I am doing what I love. I get to help change women’s lives for the better. I get to do something that I consider fun and play! How on earth is that not a success?
Each moment is a success if you choose for it to be. Each moment can be the best it has ever been, if you choose for it to be. There are so many tools that I have learned over the years to help me choose. One of them is featured in my upcoming program, Business Goddess Bootcamp. I would love to share it with you to help you see your own successes in every moment that you can.
We are all on a journey to our own horizon. You can never catch that horizon but you can always appreciate the beauty of it. That in itself is a success.
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